Myths and Facts About Sexual Assault
- Rape is about sex and sexual attractiveness. And this is a topic of concern only for women.
- If you get drunk, flirt, dress/act provocatively or are vulnerable and alone, it’s your fault.
- If a woman really didn’t want it, she would fight off her attacker (in reality, the shock or fear may overwhelm him/her.)
- You will get AIDS. (False- there are no guarantees, but many sexual diseases may be prevented or treated with immediate care.)
- People will blame you. (Admittedly, some may, but it is still not your fault.)
- You will never have a “normal” relationship, children or a family.
- Everyone will “know.” (You choose whom you tell.)
- “No one will want me.” These are FALSE.
- Rape/sexual assault is about physical violence and domination, not sex.
- Alcohol is involved in MANY incidents. More than one drink per hour affects a person’s judgment and vulnerability.
- The inability to consent (usually involves drugs/alcohol, mental status/disability or physical disability) to a sexual encounter is NOT an automatic consent.
- One out of 4 women is sexually assaulted at some point in her life. Many know their attacker.
- One out of 6 men is sexually assaulted at some point in his life.
- Threats, coercion, promise of promotion/gifts and harassment may be part of a sexual assault experience.
- Verbal abuse may be as detrimental as physical abuse. Help is available.
- An incident of sexual assault may affect a person months or years later.
- It is your right whether or not you choose to report this. (But please seek support.)
- A survivor may appear to consent when faced with the threat to one’s life or health.
- You do what you have to in order to preserve your life.
- The fault lies only with the perpetrator. Urges are controllable and sex is not